Monday, February 09, 2009

Holding His Hand











Suddenly I woke up with a fear. What if he grows up? What if he starts cleaning himself after potty and doesn't scream DAAAADDDDDY, AM DONE? What if he doesn't place his hand in mine and say "keep holding until I go off to sleep"?

What if I lose him? Frantically looked for some pictures to put up here and reassure myself that he is still my lil son. He isn't grown too much yet. He still likes it when I holler out every evening "where's my lil darling" at his day care. He wants to ride his cycle with me next to him. Wants to go on motorcycle rides. I have very selfishly not included his mom in these pics (apart from in one) because it is usually a dad who loses his son and not the mom. I always went back to my mom with my stories while my dad and I were moved further apart. This is a selfish exercise to remind him later that it WAS ME, MY SON :-), who brought you up.

He moved to his room (adjacent to ours) a year back, before he turned six. It was on my insistence, actually. And then I started missing his little palm snuggling in mine. Went to his room and got him back to his bed (this too is adjacent to ours). I used to be very adamant about sending him to a good boarding, but now am not so sure. I know am in for a big shock when he finds his wheels. He already has, you know. He rides his cycle within the street right now unless I am on my motorcycle escorting him, but very soon he will turn that corner and vanish. Ride into his own life.

Till then, let me savor the memories. Let me try not to hold him back. But also not push him away when he still wants to snuggle into me.

A few years back when he used to go to this day care run by a vegetarian family, I almost felt that I have lost him. His taste buds changed and he started preferring curd rice and sambar instead of food. He would refuse beef and sometimes even chicken. Those were very depressing months for us but we managed to get him out of that vicious vegetarian grip. Now, things are much better and he eats normal food. He has even learned to eat chicken rolls and momos like Bengalis. I could almost thank god for that had I had any gods available at that moment.

I guess that also rules out the possibility of him going for a vegetarian Kannadiga girl. Now my eyes are set on my current mixed doubles partner in badminton. She is about seven and is a Mangalorean. Hits the shuttle like nobody's business and is very aggressive on the court. She also happens to be the prettiest thing I have seen in a long time. hehehehehehehe . . .

I guess the best way to keep him by my side is by finding him a girl besotted with Uncle Ari. Wot say?

13 comments:

Anonymous said...

just in case you have forgotten, all these pics were clicked by his mom (whom you safely deleted) ;)

Anonymous said...

Bugger, so you have designs on my daughter now?

Lazyani said...

Craddle snatching again, eh?

The son grows away and comes back when he is a father himself(or old enough to be), to nurture the old child who was once his father.

Believe me, or you can call up my father.

So relax and let him live his dreams.

Pinku said...

i love your innocence Oreen..you actually think you can "find him a girl" ??

The guy's super cute...enjoy his company and when its time for him to fly away let him go ...remember the old one about if you love someone??

I think it holds true for all kinds of love..

Oreen said...

i know i know...
i will let him go anyway...

and anon 2, will discuss this over a mug of beer soon...

Mampi said...

You almost made me cry with this post of yours.
Well, I am a mother and not a father, perhaps I can feel it all the more.

Deaths Head Roy said...

Yeah mate! One for you - I would also have had a heart attack if my kid went around eating only veggie crap!!

Cheers - nice to comment on your blog again! No RM?

Oreen said...

DH Roy :)... i passed your group on a T-bird. You guys had stopped just before Bidadi probably for tea and were just starting.

No RM, we made a jeep and bike trip to Bylakuppe during the RM weekend :)

Anonymous said...

Bugger whom are u eyeing now atleast spare that kid :)... Cheers

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Oreen said...

abbe ashwin... for a while i thought you buy me rum... and was wondering who it might be...

sugarcane juice as in REAL sugarcane juice, huh?

no, i don't have designs on the little girl, please!! you should come see her play...

Anonymous said...

Very sweet, and very sweetly written... and you are growing old with your fears :)
Asha

Lucid Illusions said...

watch "Something's Gotta Give" one of the weekends ...

Rocky said...

Yes he is growing and growing fast. For me this is one of your best post till date ;)